Is it a healthy boundary or are you quietly deleting anyone who disagrees with you? In today’s language of “protecting your peace,” emotional avoidance can easily masquerade as empowerment. But when every conflict ends in distance and your circle keeps getting smaller, it may not be growth it may be insecure attachment in disguise. From a psychotherapy perspective, real boundaries deepen relationships, while avoidance shrinks them. If you’ve noticed a pattern of cutting people off rather than working through rupture, it might be time to explore whether you’re building secure connection or curating an echo chamber.

It’s about the person you can’t stop thinking about, even when they hurt you.

The one you crave like a hit.

If you’ve ever felt addicted to someone, this piece is for you.

Post 40 and post-Covid, I realised it wasn’t polyamory I was living, it was tolerating loneliness, wounds and chaos dressed up as freedom.

I wasn’t looking for polyamory; I was looking for rescue, but the woman in the castle learned she was her own knight.

Amsterdam for a weekend, cuddle puddle, a naked spa, and a full-body lesson in living without shame. If the Dutch can talk about sex, connection, and pleasure without blushing, so can we.

From poly to present. From chaos to clarity.
What Non Monogamummy taught me about love, boundaries, and why dating a therapist isn’t for the faint-hearted.

Well Fed, Well Felt, Well F*cked

By Jemma Hardélle

After a weekend full of intimacy, I’m reminded just how good every hair on my body feels when I’m well-fed, well-felt and well… fucked.

There’s a particular glow that comes from being touched the right way, not just sexually, but emotionally. It’s that nervous system exhale. The moment you stop bracing for rejection and just melt. You feel safe. Desired. Alive.

And let’s be honest, having great intimacy in a long-term relationship isn’t easy. But real intimacy in a short-term connection? Also not the effortless fantasy the movies sell us. Both require awareness, courage, and a willingness to be seen, without the filters, without the “I’m fine,”